No it it not possible to change the default connection timeout of 12 seconds that triggers HA. If you have frequent LAN problems that result in lost connectivity for more then 10 seconds then HA will not work that well for you. This is not a common scenario for Enterprise production environments that HA was designed for. Leaving the Isolation Response as Powered On you run the risk of having two machines on at the same time when connectivity is restored. Below is a description of how HA works.
Vmware HA continuously monitors all ESX Server hosts in a cluster and detects failures. An agent placed on each host maintains a "heartbeat" with the other hosts in the cluster and loss of a heartbeat initiates the process of restarting all affected virtual machines on other hosts. You create and manage clusters using VirtualCenter. The VirtualCenter Management Server places an agent on each host in the cluster so each host can communicate with other hosts to maintain state information and know what to do in case of another host's failure. (The VirtualCenter Management Server does not provide a single point of failure.) If the VirtualCenter Management Server host goes down, HA functionality changes as follows. HA clusters can still restart virtual machines on other hosts in case of failure; however, the information about what extra resources are available will be based on the state of the cluster before the VirtualCenter Management Server went down. HA monitors whether sufficient resources are available in the cluster at all times in order to be able to restart virtual machines on different physical host machines in the event of host failure. Safe restart of virtual machines is made possible by the locking technology in the ESX Server storage stack, which allows multiple ESX Servers to have access to the same virtual machines file simultaneously.
Host failure detection occurs 15 seconds after the HA service on a host has stopped sending heartbeats to the other hosts in the cluster. A host stops sending heartbeats if it is isolated from the network. At that time, other hosts in the cluster treat this host as failed, while this host declares itself as isolated from the network. By default, the isolated host powers off its virtual machines. These virtual machines can then successfully fail over to other hosts in the cluster. If the isolated host has SAN access, it retains the disk lock on the virtual machine files, and attempts to fail over the virtual machine to another host fails. The virtual machine continues to run on the isolated host. VMFS disk locking prevents simultaneous write operations to the virtual machine disk files and potential corruption.
If the network connection is restored before 12 seconds have elapsed, other hosts in the cluster will not treat this as a host failure. In addition, the host with the transient network connection problem does not declare itself isolated from the network and continues running. In the window between 12 and 14 seconds, the clustering service on the isolated host declares itself as isolated and starts powering off virtual machines with default isolation response settings. If the network connection is restored during that time, the virtual machine that had been powered off is not restarted on other hosts because the HA services on the other hosts do not consider this host as failed yet. As a result, if the network connection is restored in this window between 12 and 14 seconds after the host has lost connectivity, the virtual machines are powered off but not failed over.
For more information on HA see http://download3.vmware.com/vmworld/2006/tac9413.pdf and http://kb.vmware.com/KanisaPlatform/Publishing/894/2956923_f.SAL_Public.html and http://www.vmware.com/pdf/vmware_ha_wp.pdf
