Hi,
Is it OK to leave them on 6.5U1 long term I know its a supported configuration short term at least but dont know about long?
Answer:
As you say, for the moment there are no problems. Keep in mind that Esxi 7 and vCenter 7 will be released soon. This means that version 6.5 is approaching the end of the support.
However, you have enough time to plan a migration in peace.
Also as a bonus question does it matter which site I upgrade first?
answer:
It doesn't matter which site you update first. What you need to do is always update vCenter first and then the Esxi hosts.
On the internet you will find several tutorials that guide you step-by-step.
VMware Lifecycle Product Matrix
see Attachment
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