To answer your main question, here's a link to the UEM install guide via VMware Docs (First page has preparation points, etc. - they are getting pretty good with adding that lately):
That should be accessible even without a VMware account, but you might find more in the community if you login with a VMware account.
On a side note - why only Server 2019? That server is EOL in Jan 2024 (meaning less/no support, security patches). I would advocate to jump to MS Server 2022 since you're doing a full rebuild anyway. But I understand that may come down to licenses, etc. Still - worth asking to get ahead versus just catching up to be in the same position you're in with 2012R2 right now.