unfortunately that didnt work either

Have you ALSO installed open-vm-tools-desktop?  I believe that is the package containing the drag/drop functionality.

of course i did otherwise i would not be here

Is the VM running Wayland? If so, try re-configuring it to run X11 and see if the problem persists?

no its on mate and lxde they dont have wayland if it was on wayland i wouldnt get any input nor error it just wouldnt do anything