I'm going through the upgrade process but cannot find anywhere that allows me to upgrade the PSC to 6.5. If I go through the normal upgrade process I can get through stage 1 but at the start of stage 2 it lets me know the psc hasn't been updated yet. Where am I not looking to find out how to update the psc?
From the snap i believe that your are trying to upgrade vCenter node(your are providing ip of management node instead of PSC) without upgrading PSC.
step 5: Appliance FQDN or IP address option , provide ip/fqdn of PSC
which will ensure upgrade of PSC
following link may help you
About the Upgrade Process of the vCenter Server Appliance and Platform Services Controller Appliance
Stage1 has less pre-checks compare to Stage2.
You didn't loose anything with this. You can stop the Installer at the same place and perform upgrade of PSC. Post upgrade you can continue with vCenter Server Upgrade from where you left.