Oh my goodness, I just spent probably 5 or 6 hours souring these forums and google and was about to give up when I noticed a link to this thread from another thread...
I
knew the bridge mode must work contrary to many posts I found which flatly stated that bridge to wireless is not supported at all, this was all working fine for me when I used a windows host machine... but I got tired of windows hogging so many resources when I never used it for anything, I do all my work in VMs. So now I have a slim and trim linux setup and thanks to this patch, the wireless bridge WORKS!!!! yes!!!
Incidentally, you can almost get a working alternative by using host only with ip masquerade, but it just isn't elegant to have to add routes to all other machines on the lan in order to reach each of the VMs through the host IP address. (yes, the nat interface might have been simpler, but my VPN stuff wouldn't work with it)
Thanks a bunch!