Ok, it seems that i found the hardware that will let me live for a week. So i can proceed with experiments. I can dedicate my iMac to it. What i need is a guidelines of what to do. InflatableMouse: if you're from the development team i'm prepared to strictly follow your guidelines of what to do.
I'm just another dude on this forum that thinks he knows a thing or two about this stuff
Yes, I'll help you just like others help me when I ask something. It's what keep forums alive. Just don't take my words for granted.
It would be helpful if someone from Support would let you know what steps they would advise and follow that if you want their blessing.
Up to now i have three crashes from relatively clean configuration (yes, i borrowed Windows XP CD just to make sure this is not the problem with mine). The bad news is that they all are with Parallels desktop installed (though not running).
I hate to be the one to break it to you but I think the bad news is is that you need to start from scratch without Parallels and use an original XP CD. Many people (including myself

) use homebrew slimstream cd's and unnattended installs. Even if you follow Microsoft's instructions to the letter for slipstreaming you can still run into
a problem.
Anyway, if there's anybody willing to help and prepared to guide the process of localizing the problem i'm ready to obey strictly and have software and hardware ready i have copies of Leopard and Tiger and two copies of XP Pro SP2. My own software includes just three apps one of them probably installing kernel drivers under Windows (cryptography). This exact combination of software ran great on native XP box.
Please name all three programs with a link to their website.
I'd say your first objective would be to make a clean install of Tiger or Leopard, install Fusion and create an XP VM. Change nothing, accept all defaults for install. Confirm that XP is stable. You cannot move on unless you are absolutely positively sure its stable. A problem at this point would defy every other attempt of testing further down the line.
I think my previous post on how to proceed is still valid.
If it will give me stable configuration all that i can promise is to buy a copy of Fusion

not sure this can motivate the development team

It should and personally, I'd hate to see you buy anything else :P